Wow, what a day! I’ve been on the phone with some radio interviews re posing nude for the NO H8 campaign Click Here to see New Idea magazine online and boy, have I ruffled some feathers (again!). There seems to be a debate about whether fat bashing is allowed because you can “do something about it” versus discriminating against someone else for something they may not be able to control. But therein lies the quandry of, if we can and therefore actually “do something about it”, in whose image do we strive to be like? Creating a race of replicas certainly didn’t work for Hitler or the millions of people he shamefully murdered so why would it work now?
Every body is beautiful and every body is different. Why do we all have to look alike? The health issue of obesity aside, what is the right or perfect body to strive for? At what point do we look in the mirror and give ourselves the freedom to be happy or have the right to enjoy our lives freely?
And more importantly, it’s not about being fat or about being skinny, it’s about loving yourself regardless and I will say it again and again until someone else burns their bra and stands beside me in this fight for the right to be treated equally, with respect and dignity, this is NOT about being happy to be FAT, this is about loving and respecting yourself regardless!
People can say what they want. I stand proud having represented REAL women who, no matter what shape or weight they are at any given time, deserve to wake up believing that they are entitled to just as much success and respect as any other human being on earth.
And no matter what people think of what I have done and whether or not my body IS in fact beautiful or whether or not I should share my non size 6 body with the world (yes, a question posed to me), what better day to promote positive self esteem and equality for all body types the day after The Emmys where not one but two bigger girls won for their category? Bulimic actresses all over Hollywood have their hands tied behind their backs and are chowing down on burgers in the hope of being considered for an Emmy next year. Oh my goodness, dare I say it, but is this the rise of the REAL woman?
I’m renaming the Emmys and calling them the Femmys with a long list of real and curvy girls representing the majority of the world’s population and working that red carpet with Va Va Voom, starting with the extremely Curvalicious and proud Sofia Vergara (Target leopard g string and all),
the slightly uncomfortable Christina Hendricks (girl I wish you’d just owned it and said something empowering!)
and Gwyneth Paltrow who we all know doesn’t have a curve on her body but she “represented” by wearing something that made her look like she had, what we call in Australia, a beer gut (the kind of belly that makes men look six months pregnant!).
Melissa Mc Carthy was so so sweet but I’m not quite sure why they had to take away the impact of such a prestigious award with a spoof beauty queen pageant and I have to ask, was I the only person cringing? Why couldn’t she just have been awarded it with the respect her previous peers have been given?

Margo Martindale, whose speech on “Making it in Hollywood” was one of infinte grace and humility. She summed up with, “Some things just take time”. She has an incredible career behind her and would no doubt laugh in the face of the producer who told me to my face that, “Women over 40 in Hollywood are casting mistakes”. And to the long line of talent managers who wouldn’t represent her early in her career because of her weight I am sure she would now say, “Talk to the hand…holding the Emmy!”
Wow! What a great day for women of all shapes and sizes! Talent comes in many forms and maybe for a few days, Hollywood agents may open their doors and their minds to women who can’t just slip underneath the crack in the door but will walk through it, loud and proud and not afraid to let their talent do the talking.
Girls around the world who think they might never make it in acting because they are not a size zero can now believe that they too might one day live the Hollywood dream. It’s a good day for curvy girls today!
Mojo rising!





no one wants to see all that stretched marked, wobbly, dimply skin, your dirty whore. Put it away. No one wants to see all that dirty fat. Your big fat legs and those saggy tits. I thought you had a breast lift? Doesn’t seem to have worked. As for the tummy tuck you had, that’s just made you a more abnormal shape. The stretch marked thing is pulled down then your huge legs are blopping out under it. Yuck. No one wants to see that much of you ajay you big fat loser.
Hey Ajay Hater, You need to look at yourself, l feel so sorry for you, to say things like that to someone who is a beautiful person inside and out. You must be so unhappy with your life….YOU POOR THING.
What a warped thing to say about ANYONE, let alone someone who just wants to help people. Ajay may not look like your definition of a supermodel, but then you don’t sound like a sane and rational person. No-one is forcing you to look at the pictures, turn the page and don’t waste your energy writing hate mail.
Perhaps, Ajay Hater, as you appear to be someone that is so tremendously comfortable with your own image and have been fortunate enough to earn the right to pass judgement on lesser mortals, you would surely have no qualms posting a photo of yourself in all your sartorial splendour on the world wide web for us to ogle and admire?
If it is not too much trouble, O Great One, please respond with a link to said photo such that we may praise your glory.
It’s actually sad, “Ajay hater”. You’re expending all that energy spewing out that bile, but all you’ve done is revealed your own warped, jealous, thwarted misery. What a lonely life you must lead -something tells me there’s no one to hug you once you turn the computer off…
Rock on, AJ! Your books inspired me so much on my weight loss journey, and you deserve all the happiness that comes your way. Keep up the good work!
Ajay Hater – you are a disgrace. Looks and body image can change but you will always be ugly on the inside.
Dear “Ajay hater”
That fact that you have taken your time and energy to put such hateful words in writing is a sad reflection on how depressing your life must be .. Get help .. ps: bet mum and dad are just so proud!
YOU are the very reason I did what I did. What a horrible sad human being you are wasting your time and energy of YOUR OWN PRECIOUS FLEETING life sending messages like this to people like me, who only want to help people who have been on the end of the kind of vitriol you spew forth here.
Ajay, you are an inspiration to many, especially me! Inspirational people will always have others who are jealous and vindictive. This “Ajay-Hater” probably wishes deep down that she/he could feel beautiful in their skin. My guess is is that they don’t like what they see in the mirror, and think it’s OK to judge others based on their miserable-ness. It would make their unhappiness with themselves seem justified if they bag people who have reached a healthy sense of self worth. Keep up the good work, you are loved. xx
You go girl!!!!! Keep up the good work Ajay, xx
Ajay hater………what a horrible person you must be! Go back to the sewer that you crawled out of!..Hold ya head high AJ!
To all the Ajay Haters **** off!! She has done alot more than any off you will ever to help people..Keep up the Fab work Ajay and there is alot more people out there backing you up than you could imagine. To a beautiful lady with a Huge Heart.
Backing and supporting you all the way!!! XXXXX
Ajay, courage doesn’t always roar! Sometimes courage is that little voice deep inside that says ” I’ll try again!” you have courage of both types. There will always be an opposition, who cares , they don’t define who we are. keep showing us your courage!
Thank you to everyone who has the courage to face off to the ugliness that reflects the undercurrent and stigma that being fat carries….sadly this person actually reflects the very opinions I am trying to PROVE exist! Thank you everyone who have supported me against this person. Best of all, they will soon be revealed because a techie friend of mine is tracing their IP. Now wouldn’t it be interesting if it turns out to be someone we know?
hey Ajay… don’t worry about tracking anyone’s IP address, or finding out who they are…. they’re nobody and you don’t deserve to waste time with them!
Love ya stuff.
-Kaz x
Ajay, I’m one of the few people that rememeber you being a larger lady and doing stand up… You are gorgeous and you’ll do very well…
Dont waste your energy on fools.
hey there ‘Ajay Hater’
I bet you’re the Biggest Loser of them all… do me a big favour and post a photo of yourself so I can give YOU some feedback.
I love this post! I haven’t watched the show yet but I love that we’re celebrating women’s bodies and I think that Melissa McCarthy is so beautiful
Ajay, you changed my life and helped me start believing in myself again! Your selflessness is true beauty and what everyone should aspire to … You made me love me and taught me that everyone is worthy of love and happiness .. Thank you Ajay … THANK YOU!!!
You are awesome Ajay and the comments and support here speak volumes. Keep up the excellent work!
A fan from the UK!