It came to my attention today that Adro Sarnelli, the “winner” of the first series of Biggest Loser Australia has come out swinging, attacking fat people, myself included, with little to no sympathy for those of us who battle obesity, eating disorders, depression etc. According to Adro, on a Biggest Loser forum for previous contestants, in what you would think would be a supportive and caring environment, he refers to fat people as lazy, drug addicted people who just won’t give up food or again, in his words, “all the other bullsh*t YOU people couldn’t give up”. Wow such an easy solution and interesting given his weight loss facility is an extreme caloric reduction camp that is NOT approved by the Heart Foundation as a long term healthy weight loss solution. He goes on to say, “I can’t sit here and listen to the victim sh*t anymore”. I wonder what his clients would think of that, who by his own admission on another forum post, “sell their souls to pay over $17,000 for a six week stay” at his fat camp.
Adro has since removed the forum post where he goes on to rubbish people who can’t lose weight or those who have since gained weight or who struggle to maintain their weight with a fair amount of fat bashing and subtle bullying going on in it but it was screen captured by some people (who were quick to defend others and who were then kicked out of the forum for doing so) and was sent to me by more than one former contestant who were hurt by the things he was saying. This is my reply after reading the incredibly insensitive and disappointing comments that make me believe that Adro has forgotten where he came from……….
I have just read the disgusting comments Adro Sarnelli made on a facebook forum about me, my weight gain and overweight people in general who battle obesity…..(sent to my by more than one former Biggest Loser contestant).
Adro: I have found your comments disgusting, pathetic and sad. Adro, you of ALL people should understand that weight loss and weight gain holds many issues and to call overweight people pathetic, lazy, drug addicts that you have “minor compassion” for shows that you truly do NOT understand the true and everlasting depths and struggles of obesity. Some people manage to overcome it but statistics have PROVEN that over 90% of people who battle obesity will do so for LIFE. I congratulate you on keeping your weight off, but never ever forget where you came from and the struggle that many millions of people face in battling the multiple issues that lead to weight gain (financial, emotional, physical, medical, mental).
It’s funny, I REMEMBER how you got back into Biggest Loser to make it to the final four. Adro, if you remember, you were eliminated by the game and fellow contestants but you threatened the producers with a court case and all sorts of things, which in the first year of a show, a costly court case and scandal was not what they wanted or needed to make the show a success. You forced them into giving you another chance, threatening to make trouble for them and so they rewrote the series and gave you a second chance, reluctantly. You think you won that fair and square? I remember Cosi being eliminated by Sam (who went on to win) who spiked his drinks by changing the labels from low calorie chocolate topping to full fat and Cosi left with dignity and grace and if there was ever an opportunity to complain about getting kicked out that was it.
I remember how you came to the show, a lost, broken, desperate, powerless father unable to save your own life and willing to do anything to fix it, putting your life in the hands of others, a TV show, trusting they would change your life FOR you. I also remember how you presented yourself at your final weigh in (behind closed doors and a few days before filming so contestants had time to recover and look healthy)…..you were starving, pale, had shallow breathing, low blood pressure, cracked lips and you were unable to stand on your own two feet – hardly a great advertisement for healthy weight loss….. all the contestants begged me to ask the producers to have you drug tested. I took that request to the producers and was told they didn’t want to know the truth, they just wanted a good winner and told me to shut up and go away. This was one of the many problems I faced in the job I became known for being difficult in…….because I spoke up when I felt it was wrong or that we were being deceitful. I refused to be the face of their online diet club, I refused to sell their shakes and diet bars, I complained when someone who went on to win was living off 200 calories a week, I complained when I had to participate in a cover up for the contestant (who also went on to win) who drank bottles and bottles of tea tree oil (and whose relative was caught smuggling more in) to lose gross amounts of weight and more…..it made me NO friends, but I refused to drink or even sell the Kool Aid. When I joined Biggest Loser I truly believed I would be able to help people learn to love and care for themselves and hoped my message of loving yourself first was more important than chasing a number on a scale. I quickly learned I was never going to be able to do that. And I am grateful for the good that came from that job but I am sick and tired of people like you who forget how hard the struggle can be and the arrogance and judgement you wield while making us feel inferior, forgetting that fat people have feelings too and deserve just as much love and RESPECT as anyone else.
Adro, you stalked me for years begging for support in creating your weight loss camp, begged me to find you someone to do surgery on you, begging for magazine articles and TV interviews and people who would invest in your weight loss business and now you say “Ajay who?” Adro, guess what? You don’t know me and the fact that you so quickly discard me as being someone of no worth is more a testament to your shallowness than it is of my true worth on this earth. I am a human being, frail and imperfect with more heart and compassion than you will ever have. I am also deserving of the very same respect you expect of yourself. You use the “Ajay who?” reference like I am suddenly someone of no importance. Let me clarify something:
Adro, I am a mother of a beautiful son who has Aspergers and who I fight for every day of his life, I am a daughter of a woman who lost her life due to a government mandate on single women and I am just now discovering who I am, and why I am, in my post adoption world only now recognized by the Australian Government and acknowledged by experts and medical professionals as a trauma that leaves life long scars that I am determined to heal from. I am not broken, merely “injured” and I will rise again but I am not lazy, nor am I drug addicted and yes I am a “victim” of an enforced and illegal adoption and excuse me if I lose myself a little in what you call “bullshit” and “victim mentality” while I heal the wounds that are only now being acknowledged as existing.
I am a woman, a human being, an equal inhabitant of this planet who has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for breast cancer charities (and have never charged for my time), been a vocal advocate for The Eating Disorders Foundation (for FREE), given years of my time to speak at Youth Forums (again for FREE), walked The Great Wall of China to raise funds to build a cancer wellness center (also UNPAID and was the 4th highest fund raiser), helped thousands and thousands of people live their life and love themselves regardless of their weight through my online support network Healthy Body Club, helping them understand that no matter what shape, weight, height, creed or color you are, we are ALL as equally as important and NEEDED/wanted on this planet and as deserving of love and respect as any thin/skinny/fit person. I have been fat and thin and I know one thing – ugliness, hatred and discrimination comes in all forms including “buffed”, so look in the mirror and know that no amount of dieting will change the ugly truth that you are a hypocrite and have most ashamedly forgotten your roots. Do you use this same kind of hatred, judgement and discrimination on your clients shaming them into “change” simply to be accepted by you? Shame on you Adro Sarnelli, shame on you.
And next time you say, “Ajay who?” Know this. I continue to fight for the “little people” who don’t have a voice, I continue to fight my own battles with a varying degree of “success” because it is the journey and NOT the destination that makes our life so unique and every moment is precious – famous or not, on tv or not,and just because I am fat right now doesn’t make me a second class citizen, nor worthy of your scorn or derision and just because I may not be on your tv screen right now doesn’t mean the work I am doing in my life is meaningless.
And for the record Adro, I am currently championing anti bullying so why not step over to my facebook page and get acquainted with “who” I am https://www.facebook.com/bullyingbitestv as I continue to devote endless amounts of my time and energy helping people, saving lives and working for charities for NO charge (unlike your weight loss business) and I am who I am no matter how big or small my body is and I would much rather have a large arse than a small mind like yours!
Thank you for listening.
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