It’s time to cut the crap!

It came to my attention today that Adro Sarnelli, the “winner” of the first series of Biggest Loser Australia has come out swinging, attacking fat people, myself included, with little to no sympathy for those of us who battle obesity, eating disorders, depression etc. According to Adro, on a Biggest Loser forum for previous contestants, in what you would think would be a supportive and caring environment, he refers to fat people as lazy, drug addicted people who just won’t give up food or again, in his words, “all the other bullsh*t YOU people couldn’t give up”. Wow such an easy solution and interesting given his weight loss facility is an extreme caloric reduction camp that is NOT approved by the Heart Foundation as a long term healthy weight loss solution. He goes on to say, “I can’t sit here and listen to the victim sh*t anymore”. I wonder what his clients would think of that, who by his own admission on another forum post, “sell their souls to pay over $17,000 for a six week stay” at his fat camp.

Adro has since removed the forum post where he goes on to rubbish people who can’t lose weight or those who have since gained weight or who struggle to maintain their weight with a fair amount of fat bashing and subtle bullying going on in it but it was screen captured by some people (who were quick to defend others and who were then kicked out of the forum for doing so) and was sent to me by more than one former contestant who were hurt by the things he was saying. This is my reply after reading the incredibly insensitive and disappointing comments that make me believe that Adro has forgotten where he came from……….

I have just read the disgusting comments Adro Sarnelli made on a facebook forum about me, my weight gain and overweight people in general who battle obesity…..(sent to my by more than one former Biggest Loser contestant).

Adro: I have found your comments disgusting, pathetic and sad. Adro, you of ALL people should understand that weight loss and weight gain holds many issues and to call overweight people pathetic, lazy, drug addicts that you have “minor compassion” for shows that you truly do NOT understand the true and everlasting depths and struggles of obesity. Some people manage to overcome it but statistics have PROVEN that over 90% of people who battle obesity will do so for LIFE. I congratulate you on keeping your weight off, but never ever forget where you came from and the struggle that many millions of people face in battling the multiple issues that lead to weight gain (financial, emotional, physical, medical, mental).

It’s funny, I REMEMBER how you got back into Biggest Loser to make it to the final four. Adro, if you remember, you were eliminated by the game and fellow contestants but you threatened the producers with a court case and all sorts of things, which in the first year of a show, a costly court case and scandal was not what they wanted or needed to make the show a success. You forced them into giving you another chance, threatening to make trouble for them and so they rewrote the series and gave you a second chance, reluctantly. You think you won that fair and square? I remember Cosi being eliminated by Sam (who went on to win) who spiked his drinks by changing the labels from low calorie chocolate topping to full fat and Cosi left with dignity and grace and if there was ever an opportunity to complain about getting kicked out that was it.

I remember how you came to the show, a lost, broken, desperate, powerless father unable to save your own life and willing to do anything to fix it, putting your life in the hands of others, a TV show, trusting they would change your life FOR you. I also remember how you presented yourself at your final weigh in (behind closed doors and a few days before filming so contestants had time to recover and look healthy)…..you were starving, pale, had shallow breathing, low blood pressure, cracked lips and you were unable to stand on your own two feet – hardly a great advertisement for healthy weight loss….. all the contestants begged me to ask the producers to have you drug tested. I took that request to the producers and was told they didn’t want to know the truth, they just wanted a good winner and told me to shut up and go away. This was one of the many problems I faced in the job I became known for being difficult in…….because I spoke up when I felt it was wrong or that we were being deceitful. I refused to be the face of their online diet club, I refused to sell their shakes and diet bars, I complained when someone who went on to win was living off 200 calories a week, I complained when I had to participate in a cover up for the contestant (who also went on to win) who drank bottles and bottles of tea tree oil (and whose relative was caught smuggling more in) to lose gross amounts of weight and more…..it made me NO friends, but I refused to drink or even sell the Kool Aid. When I joined Biggest Loser I truly believed I would be able to help people learn to love and care for themselves and hoped my message of loving yourself first was more important than chasing a number on a scale. I quickly learned I was never going to be able to do that. And I am grateful for the good that came from that job but I am sick and tired of people like you who forget how hard the struggle can be and the arrogance and judgement you wield while making us feel inferior, forgetting that fat people have feelings too and deserve just as much love and RESPECT as anyone else.

Adro, you stalked me for years begging for support in creating your weight loss camp, begged me to find you someone to do surgery on you, begging for magazine articles and TV interviews and people who would invest in your weight loss business and now you say “Ajay who?” Adro, guess what? You don’t know me and the fact that you so quickly discard me as being someone of no worth is more a testament to your shallowness than it is of my true worth on this earth. I am a human being, frail and imperfect with more heart and compassion than you will ever have. I am also deserving of the very same respect you expect of yourself. You use the “Ajay who?” reference like I am suddenly someone of no importance. Let me clarify something:

Adro, I am a mother of a beautiful son who has Aspergers and who I fight for every day of his life, I am a daughter of a woman who lost her life due to a government mandate on single women and I am just now discovering who I am, and why I am, in my post adoption world only now recognized by the Australian Government and acknowledged by experts and medical professionals as a trauma that leaves life long scars that I am determined to heal from. I am not broken, merely “injured” and I will rise again but I am not lazy, nor am I drug addicted and yes I am a “victim” of an enforced and illegal adoption and excuse me if I lose myself a little in what you call “bullshit” and “victim mentality” while I heal the wounds that are only now being acknowledged as existing.

I am a woman, a human being, an equal inhabitant of this planet who has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for breast cancer charities (and have never charged for my time), been a vocal advocate for The Eating Disorders Foundation (for FREE), given years of my time to speak at Youth Forums (again for FREE), walked The Great Wall of China to raise funds to build a cancer wellness center (also UNPAID and was the 4th highest fund raiser), helped thousands and thousands of people live their life and love themselves regardless of their weight through my online support network Healthy Body Club, helping them understand that no matter what shape, weight, height, creed or color you are, we are ALL as equally as important and NEEDED/wanted on this planet and as deserving of love and respect as any thin/skinny/fit person. I have been fat and thin and I know one thing – ugliness, hatred and discrimination comes in all forms including “buffed”, so look in the mirror and know that no amount of dieting will change the ugly truth that you are a hypocrite and have most ashamedly forgotten your roots. Do you use this same kind of hatred, judgement and discrimination on your clients shaming them into “change” simply to be accepted by you? Shame on you Adro Sarnelli, shame on you.

And next time you say, “Ajay who?” Know this. I continue to fight for the “little people” who don’t have a voice, I continue to fight my own battles with a varying degree of “success” because it is the journey and NOT the destination that makes our life so unique and every moment is precious – famous or not, on tv or not,and just because I am fat right now doesn’t make me a second class citizen, nor worthy of your scorn or derision and just because I may not be on your tv screen right now doesn’t mean the work I am doing in my life is meaningless.

And for the record Adro, I am currently championing anti bullying so why not step over to my facebook page and get acquainted with “who” I am https://www.facebook.com/bullyingbitestv as I continue to devote endless amounts of my time and energy helping people, saving lives and working for charities for NO charge (unlike your weight loss business) and I am who I am no matter how big or small my body is and I would much rather have a large arse than a small mind like yours!

Thank you for listening.

If you choose to quote from this blog then please do me the courtesy of including the link.

Just one of the many nasty forum posts sent to me by multiple different former Biggest Loser contestants who were hurt by these comments

46 Responses to It’s time to cut the crap!
  1. Natfava
    November 25, 2012 | 8:47 am

    Once again, Ajay talks sense. Some horrible people out there.

  2. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:52 am

    @shelsta78 Totes

  3. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:54 am

    @doddas So many wow

  4. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:54 am

    @BecPobjie From one perspective it’s spectacularly written to drop some great truthbombs.

  5. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:55 am

    @BecPobjie It was like “oh, and another thing – BOOM!”…

  6. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:56 am

    @skoobs77 @ajayrochester SO MUCH STUFF

    • ajayrochester
      November 25, 2012 | 8:58 am

      @MolksTVTalk @skoobs77 Ha, you ain’t seen nothin yet! Somebody say “autobiographical tell all?” lmao

      • MolksTVTalk
        November 25, 2012 | 8:59 am

        @ajayrochester @skoobs77 BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

  7. PaulCunningham
    November 25, 2012 | 8:56 am

    @MolksTVTalk tea tree oil???

    • MolksTVTalk
      November 25, 2012 | 8:57 am

      @PaulCunningham IKR?! (yuck). And 200 calories A WEEK!!! I struggle on 1200 calories a day and I’m losing weight…

      • PaulCunningham
        November 25, 2012 | 9:07 am

        @MolksTVTalk yeah 1200 is pretty low for a man

      • PaulCunningham
        November 25, 2012 | 9:08 am

        @MolksTVTalk 200 a week… Imagine that. Yay its Tuesday I can have an apple!

        • MolksTVTalk
          November 25, 2012 | 9:42 am

          @PaulCunningham Half

  8. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:57 am

    @BecPobjie You’re doing so much better without it anyway, hot stuff

  9. MolksTVTalk
    November 25, 2012 | 8:58 am

    @emilyeverywhere @ajayrochester Truth. Bomb. Central.

  10. HAEScoach
    November 25, 2012 | 9:19 am

    @ajayrochester oh what a fantastic reply, and your words have truth! I feel so sad that people still have to justify their existence though

  11. HAEScoach
    November 25, 2012 | 9:20 am

    @ajayrochester you should not need to justify to anyone you have a right to exist and to respect, body size should not be an issue

  12. Tuggeranong
    November 25, 2012 | 9:34 am

    Never trust a baldy lolz

  13. abigail_harlow
    November 25, 2012 | 9:36 am

    @ajayrochester hahahahahahaha love it! what a nasty person

  14. GeordieJenn
    November 25, 2012 | 9:42 am

    That is disgusting. Ajay, what I find the biggest testament of all is the fact that your name is known pretty much around the world and he is known in what, maybe 5 countries…………………… more like Adro who?

  15. ajayrochester
    November 25, 2012 | 9:55 am

    @duncanfine @benpobjie LOVE IT!!!!! On that day people cld eat what they want, say what they want & be free to be their own beautiful selves

  16. ajayrochester
    November 25, 2012 | 11:42 am

    @Riky81 @MolksTVTalk hilair!

  17. Redness
    November 25, 2012 | 11:44 am

    GO Girl … well done for being blowing the lid off the sham …  Adro WHO??? He always behaved like a nob and now it’s proven he is one! The truth wins out every time … OWell Done Ajay!!!

  18. _Bad_Cop_
    November 25, 2012 | 11:47 am

    Awesome job Ajay! I too am overweight but by no means am I lazy, depressed and I’m certainly not a drug addict, I exercise 5 days a week despite working long hours and try to eat as healthy as possible.  I refuse to pay money to someone to help me lose weight and all I can say is shame on Adro for jumping on the bandwagon of trying to fleece people trying to shed their weight. Adro really needs a wake up call to remind himself of the endless struggles he went through trying to lose the weight before he went on TBL…..or maybe he was just lazy…

  19. ajayrochester
    November 25, 2012 | 12:02 pm

    @CollyLong @MolksTVTalk eek shock horror…over here in LA they call it “scripted reality”

  20. bridgetneval
    November 25, 2012 | 1:26 pm

    I have never watched ‘The BIggest Loser’ so I have no frame of reference for a lot of this – found this article when it was retweeted. But oh my god, thank you. Thank you for being honest and articulate and AMAZING in the face of everything the Australian reality TV industry stands for, not to mention the bullying and harassment that it incited. I wish I’d known sooner that there were people like you in our TV industry, trying to retain the integrity and dignity (as much as possible) of the content produced. There needs to be more people like that in the industry, especially now that reality TV is slowly overwhelming original drama/other content on our screens.Thanks for posting this and for standing up for yourself, people who struggle with their weight, victims of deceit, bullying and harassment, and for maintaining decent values in the Australian entertainment industry. I didn’t know who you were ten minutes ago, but now I am a massive fan. THANK YOU.
    -Bridget Neval

  21. Saresgal
    November 25, 2012 | 3:01 pm

    Wowza, you tell em girl… And those revelations about the goings-on behind the scenes on BL don’t completely surprise me unfortunately but are nonetheless disgusting!
    Oh & Adro – i don’t know you personally but by your comments you seem like an asshat of a human being and there’s my bit of honesty for you. If i had a weight problem i certainly wouldn’t be making you $17K richer to help me, maybe time for a crash course on Publicity101.
    Sarah.

  22. moldor
    November 26, 2012 | 1:26 pm

    Hi Ajay – let me say up front that I’m NOT a fan of the show. Nothing to do with you, but I have no respect for anyone who puts themselves through that bullshit. Loosing weight the way they do is not healthy and can lead to all sorts of medical complications.
     
    I was diagnosed with high blood pressure and Type 2 Diabetes a couple of years ago – through diet and basically watching what I ate I reduced from 130Kg to 95Kg in less than 12 months, and the weight has pretty much stayed off (give or take a kilo or two !!).  That is the SAFE way to do it – all the exercise and dieting in the world will do nothing but kill you unless you re-educate your eating habits and change your lifestyle as well.
     
    As for your comment about the producers “not wanting to know the truth”, isn’t that endemic in all of these “reality TV” programs ?”  They just want good ratings for the sponsors, and to hell with the health and wellbeing of the contestants, or the “fairness” of the whole process. They should have stuck to their guns and not allowed Sarnelli back on the show – exposing him for the small-minded myopic prat he really is.
     
    And by the way, there are those of us who find your self-proclaimed “fat arse” most attractive..:-)

  23. AaronDarc
    November 26, 2012 | 5:08 pm

    You go, girl! It’s high time people realised that “reality” TV is nothing of the sort.

  24. clauds
    November 26, 2012 | 7:15 pm

    HI Ajay,
     
    Have to say I never watched the show. I don’t think we should condone the making of money out of people’s misery. Or exploiting their issues as so many reality shows are about. But I read the article on smh.com.au and got on to your website because of it and am glad that I did. 
    As for Adro and his idiotic remarks all I can say is the guy is a pig and has probably achieved what he had intended by making that remark about you – attention. The guy did it for attention. Your name and an offensive remark and he gets attention. I’m sure if he said the same remark about his wife or his mother then he wouldn’t be getting the same attention. (He does mention that being fat ran in the family so unless he has said otherwise I am to believe that his family are still overweight).   I’ve bookmarked your website and will be checking it out later….

  25. ajayrochester
    November 26, 2012 | 7:28 pm

    Hey everyone, I just wanted to say thank you for all your amazing messages, emails and tweets. I really appreciate it. I really didn’t expect this to go so far, I simply spoke from the heart in the heat of the moment. I just wanted to say thanks for taking the time to be so supportive. Really, truly appreciate it.  xxooxx

  26. renlish
    November 26, 2012 | 11:10 pm

    Ajay, thank you for confirming what I have had suspicions of for a long time. TBL is a blight on our TVs (as is much of everything else) and should never return to the screen. It’s so damaging.  Over the past two years I’ve lost 50kg. It’s been slow but it’s been worth it because I’ve been able to maintain my new lifestyle far easier than if I was to do anything even remotely resembling what the contestants on that show did to themselves. Losing 5 or 8 kg in a week is insane, and I was horrified at the few episodes I’d been unfortunate enough to come across particularly where the contestants were UPSET with that result! Frankly, I’m fucking over the moon if I manage to lose 500g in a week. 
     
    Adro needs a swift kick up the backside for his complete lack of respect and arrogance.  He should be grateful for the opportunities he managed to bully out of people. Most of all he, and people like him, need to remember where they’ve come from and who helped them get there. 
     
    By the way…. drinking tea tree oil?!  That stuff is for treating pimples, not weight loss!

  27. Em
    November 27, 2012 | 12:48 am

    So he has people willing to selling the bottoms of their feet to find cash to give to him for his weight loss program (so he can make money off them in magazine deals)? I doubt it. Keep your head up Ajay, no need to justify yourself to a mental midget who wants to con people out of $17,000 for nothing.

  28. Sharron
    November 27, 2012 | 6:28 am

    I always knew Adro was a creep!!
     
    Keep up the good work Ajay, you are an inspiration to everyone!

  29. Tony Larkman
    November 27, 2012 | 8:52 am

    Referring to the comment “…contestant…who drank bottles and bottles of tea tree oil (and whose relative was caught smuggling more in) to lose gross amounts of weight and more..”
    This article has been brought to the attention of the Australian Tea Tree Industry Association (ATTIA Ltd) http://www.attia.org.au. It is vitally important that anyone reading this blog knows and understands that tea tree oil must NEVER, EVER be ingested (swallowed).
    Pure Australian tea tree oil is a fantastic product with proven efficacy against a myriad of bacterial and fungal infections, and with excellent anti-inflammatory action however its use must be restricted to topical applications. It is NOT a weight loss remedy. Please ensure everyone is reminded to follow the instructions on any medicinal packaging.
    More information on the safety, efficacy and uses of pure Australian tea tree oil is available from the ATTIA website here: http://www.attia.org.au/teatree_about.php
    Tony Larkman
    Industry Development Officer
    ATTIA Ltd

  30. Tim
    November 27, 2012 | 10:07 am

    Short-term, extreme calorific reduction weight loss is not something that is conducive to medium-long term weight loss. Adro should know this and yet has the chutzpah to blame his unfortunate clients when it is own doomed biggest loser style  fat camp that is to blame.
    Want to lose weight and keep it off? Do it in a fashion that you can maintain. Slow and steady. Eat plenty of nutritious food. Calorie restriction is self defeating. Eat healthier. Make a permanent lifestyle change, not a short term starvation regimen.

  31. HappyMum
    November 27, 2012 | 10:57 am

    AJ – I have always admired you, I love the fact that you refuse to be a puppet on a string in an industry that prefers people who will sell their souls for a job. I find you intelligent, articulate, brutally honest, kind and a loving mother who courageously support others alongside then whilst battling your own challenges. I love seeing you stand up and being proud of who you are, never allow others to change that. Seems Adro has forgotten how he used to feel everyday and how he was treated when he was at his heaviest. I feel sad for the clients of his that manage to find such a huge sum of money only to stand in front of a man who dislikes them openly for being ‘victims’. Shameful. You can post on his business page on facebook here - https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-New-Me-Obesity-Rehabilitation-facility/141773505847507

  32. ShellBini
    November 27, 2012 | 3:10 pm

    Wow AJ what a powerful and enpowering letter you have written to this Andro, I sincerely hope he reads that and even if for a second comprehends the power the meaning and the acknowledgement that you have mentioned in you letter to him, I to know what its like to be fat, skinny and fat again after losing 60kg it is a rollercoaster ride of emotion and self beleiving that you can stay and maintain this new you, it cost me my marriage, my friends my children and nearly my life, my children now understand and forgive me and love me even more for the journey I have taken to redeem myself and learn to love myself once again, its isn’t easy to maintain a massive amount of weight loss, I change as a person I had more confidence, more energy and I looked half my age, It was an amazing feeling I must admit, but really it wasn’t me, I now live a subdued life in the bush with a man I love dearly, I have put on alot of the weight I and as much as I feel like a failure I feel more nornal now, the guilt of tearing my family apart will stay with my forever but we are all mending slowly, I spoke to my ex husband the other day and mentioned something about my weight and he said ah you are normal again, my point is these people who loss massive amounts of weight or even just a few kilos we all struggle to keep up the exercise and eating plans that we were on, the mind is a powerful thing and if you have any kind of stress in you life whether it be relationship, family or work those feeling will overtake your mind and if you are an emotional eater or are just feeling down it will effect you, as you say it doesn’t mean that we will be this way forever it just mean that for now we are dealing with other issues in our life that our mind and body are dealing with in its own way, sometimes your mind goes into a defensive mode just to help you cope with more important issue for the time being, I truely hope you find peace with who you are and your world becomes a happy, healthy place where you can get back on track and find a good balance, I wish you all the best.
    Shell

  33. St
    November 27, 2012 | 4:52 pm

    Stop being a victim aj

    • clauds
      November 28, 2012 | 3:51 pm

      hey St. aj is not a victim. she has a right to stand up for herself and that is what she has done. Adro’s behaviour and comment was unwarranted and nasty and good on her for giving it back to him.

    • Marion
      November 29, 2012 | 3:54 pm

      Sounds like Adro is playing the victim. He missed out on money from a magazine at the expense of someone else getting into a bikini. His program just doesn’t work and he needs to face it.

  34. LeeBay
    November 27, 2012 | 8:50 pm

    I don’t and won’t watch TBL, it does not seem to me to be anything except a) a warning … Don’t get this fat kids…. and b) an excuse for people to laugh at fat people.  I have found that people who lose the weight forget the struggle.  Adro has clearly forgotten what its like to walk down the street and be judged. What its like to TRY and to have people yell at you from their car windows (funnily enough, its WORSE during the run of TBL)

  35. Eli
    November 28, 2012 | 6:28 am

    good on you for speaking up – we always knew the methods used on BL were wrong

  36. critta
    November 28, 2012 | 8:17 pm

    this was a revelation to read.  I always suspected that things were not as they seems on the show.  I have struggled with my weight all my life and it is only been in the past year or so that I have accepted that I am not going to be a size 8 and am happy with who I am.  I have a wonderful husband and a loving and caring daughter.  I am gainfully employed and work damn hard.  I exercise and eat healthy.  I refuse to allow society to make me feel unhappy.  People like Adro really irk me.  He was once an overweight man who thinks he is now “the” answer to obesity.  Grow up!!!

  37. Marion
    November 29, 2012 | 3:52 pm

    Sounds like Adro shot himself in the foot with his comments about overweight people. Who would want to pay someone to help you lose weight when they have no respect for you at all (has the opinion that “you’re lazy” i.e. he wouldn’t be able to help you anyway if you were lazy (so he has an excuse if his program is just not effective). I doubt anyone would pay him 17 grand to listen to him call you fat and lazy and then expect you to rock up for a photo shoot so he can get paid more by magazines.

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