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Managing the Meltdowns.

For Shelley and anyone else who may need it…….

I got an email the other day from a mom whose 5 year old has just been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder otherwise known as Aspergers.  I know that  first feeling all too well as Kai was the same age when he got his diagnosis except I had the luxury of knowing absolutely nothing about Aspergers and in some ways, ignorance was bliss.  These days there’s a lot more awareness  about it even amongst those who don’t  know someone with it so I can imagine those first horrifying thoughts of what might lie ahead.

And whilst I can only speak for myself, and the people I know who have kids with the “disorder” (a word I prefer to NOT use), I want to assure you, it is not as bad as you might think. Yes the road will be rough, but not as tough as someone whose child is given a diagnosis of something like leukemia. Aspergers will not kill your child and I have learnt to find the blessings wherever they might be.

The mom reached out to me cause I have written previously about the meltdowns my son has had over the years with his Aspergers and she was hoping to get some advice from me on how to manage the meltdowns to minimize collateral damage.…

While there is life there is hope

 

Yesterday after doing shadow puppets on a school projector screen, my son Kai was grabbed from behind by his Science teacher, pulled out of his chair by his hoodie, and dragged across the room, hitting the door on the way out and being yelled at with, “I am sick of the stupid choices you make.”

Whilst I don’t condone my son’s behaviour I cannot accept that his teacher’s response was in any way acceptable especially given Kai has Aspergers.

At present it seems the school are simply demanding an apology from the teacher. Kai is expected to accept the apology and move on. I am currently doing everything I can to help Kai through it dealing with the humiliation, degradation, physical asssault, the insult and the fear he currently feels in regard to someone who should be an advocate of trust. It is important the he understands that it is NOT okay to hurt anyone no matter how frustrated you might be but I am also trying to help him become empowered and learn how to heal and deal with life’s bumpy terrain.

I have spent hours up there with the principal, the psychologist, his special ed teacher and of course Kai. I had promised this list to his Social Studies teacher last week (a stark difference to his abusive out of control science teacher, she had said to me, “Please teach me everything I can know about Aspergers and any thing I can do to help him succeed” Bless her!!!!) In an effort to turn this into something good I have published this here in the hope of educating anyone else who would like to learn and understand what it is like living with Aspergers – an often mysterious diagnosis because sometimes, the high functioning kids like mine can “fly under the radar”.…