Monthly Archives: August 2012

Bullying Bytes!

It’s ironic that early yesterday morning, while I was working on my soon to be launched global anti bullying campaign, I got a call from an Aussie friend who is visiting in LA. She told me about suicidal tweets from TV personality, Australia’s Next Top Model judge and author Charlotte Dawson. At first I laughed, thinking she was being hilariously dramatic and giving the trolls a good run for their money. I logged on and watched the twitter feed and there was one tweet, since removed, that made me feel this twitter war was taking a turn for the worse as we were watching the screen. I’m not going to go into what it was because that’s Charlotte’s business but in hindsight I am thankful she posted it because that’s when I knew this whole situation could go horribly wrong. I’ve been in that place and it is a very lonely scary place and I know how quickly and easily a life can end. That’s how I lost my mother and I too have been there too many times to mention.

Yes, I know our mothers drummed into our brains that sticks and stones can break our bones but names would never hurt us but they were wrong and Mrs Marsh was right – it does get in!…

Hate Campaign really bites!

Three years ago, I ran away from Australia and reveled in absolute anonymity here in the USA. It’s only now that I have felt strong enough to dip my toe in the water again and it is with extreme caution that I do so. But when you have spent your whole life training for a career in front of the camera, it is not so easy to change vocations overnight. Nobody wants to hire a TV host with no experience as a waiter to serve in their restaurant unless it is at Fawlty Towers!

But I had had enough of fame, the sometimes-toxic by-product of a life in front of the camera. I am an author and actor by trade. There was never a class in my drama school that went into what to do when you wake up one day and find yourself fodder for salacious stories designed simply to sell magazines.

I remember one day, in the midst of a court case I was battling in private and in public; the trial by media more damaging than the actual legal recourse, and to this day struggling to find accurate reports of the ruling (which was NO conviction!), I took a moment out of filming The Biggest Loser Australia, standing at this incredibly beautiful cliff face overlooking Sydney Harbor, wishing somehow that I could still do what I do best – write and inspire people to be real and to heal their lives, without having all the venomous media and personal attacks that go with it.…

The first ever GLOBAL anti bullying Film Festival


Well, I’ve had a couple of really amazing days after a few really down days. Frustrated by my financial/job situation, the only real joy was, whilst I didn’t make the BEST food choices, I didn’t have a single binge which for me is BIG progress. My stars (Jonathon Cainer) said to focus on what is closest to my heart and so I started putting a lot more time and effort into my anti bullying campaign even though there is no pay cheque attached to it (yet) and things are pretty dire on the homefront. But I decided that I might as well do some good with my time versus lying around moaning and wishing things were different, right?

Well, as soon as I did that, a series of strange coincidences began that are still coming, wave after wave. You could call it happenstance, fate, destiny, I don’t know what it is but I am meeting people in the strangest of places (walking the dogs, local parks etc) who are turning out to be contacts it would probably take me years of networking to find (if I was lucky) and they are excited about my project that has evolved beyond my wildest imagination already and people are starting to help by introducing me to the right people who can make this happen.…

Shake that booty!!!!

After years and years of looking down my nose at people who did protein or meal replacement shakes, I have now been doing mine for 3 weeks and I love it.

Now to clarify, ViSalus is not a meal “replacement” as such as it contains more vitamins, minerals and essential nutrients in one “meal” than I probably had over the last 6 months – there’s not a lot of goodness in fried potatoes and grilled cheese sandwiches.

For me, it wasn’t so much as going on a diet but getting rid of the opportunity to binge, which I had been doing consistently for months and getting bigger and bigger at a rate of knots, feeling like it was completely spiraling out of control and would really only end with me having a stroke.

So I made a commitment to having 2 shakes, a normal healthy main meal and healthy snacks every day, now having done it for 20 days. I had no expectation other than to first just stop putting on weight as I had been doing, to control the 24-7 bingeing, to have enough energy to get moving and to lose some weight – enough to not be afraid of having a heart attack.…

Break It Up Anti Bullying Program

Hey everyone, this is the anti bullying campaign I am getting off the ground and would really love your support. Please go to this webpage to make a contribution.

Thank you

http://igg.me/p/195532?a=20438

Break It Up TV
Anti-Bullying After School Program

The Break It Up TV after school program is an eight-week curriculum that aims to create awareness and acceptance amongst students, but not exclusive to, those who have been bullied and those who have been accused of bullying through an entertaining and informative TV presentation and production course taught by two industry professionals – anti bullying advocate and author Ajay Rochester, former host of The Biggest Loser Australia and Weatherman/TV Presenter/Celebrity Jonathan Novak.

Break It Up TV aims to guide students through the presentation of their own anti bullying “NEWS” broadcast, empowering them to understand, through their own research and presentation of a range of entertainment and news stories, the definition of bullying, the impact (potential and otherwise) of bullying on the victim and perpetrator, the discovery of those already making a change, finding celebrities who were bullied and who are making a stand, promoting awareness and acceptance of differences and celebrating diversity, all culminating in the students implementing their own anti bullying campaign and “Day of Difference”.…

Ajay at the LA Comedy Store!

Here it is…live at The Comedy Store in LA!

Go where the energy flows.


Well, I am 15 days into my 90 day transformation and it is going well. I am certainly a lot healthier than I was a few weeks ago, and have found that just treating my self with more respect has made significant changes physically and emotionally, and I am really beginning to see changes in mind, body and spirit.

Now, anyone who knows me, knows I love to really go with the flow, it’s how I came to live in America……even though the job I came for didn’t happen, I believed intrinsically that I came here for a reason, a higher purpose than me just making it big in Hollywood, and having spent my life helping others I knew it was somehow linked to that.

Of course, I didn’t plan for the spectacular fall “from grace” that I was to experience but it’s a funny thing, while many critics, magazines and judgmental people have laughed and derided at my “misfortune” I have always known that somehow this is all part of the bigger picture, and that I have never fallen from “grace” at all but have very much been living in it…in my path, following my heart through whatever rocky road that will ultimately lead to me to my destiny.”

Sharing how tough times has been for me was a terrifying moment of “acceptance” and “surrender”.…

The Finding My Mojo Indiegogo Project

Hi everyone, it has taken me a lot of time and courage to set this project up. Believing in yourself, your talent and your ability to truly make a difference in the world using your god given talents has been something I have recently struggled with.

So many horrible people (especially the media in Australia) told me to get a real job, told me I was washed up and convinced me I was worthless so often, that I actually started to believe them.

I stopped doing what I do best – leading the way.

It took 107 “real job” applications and rejections to realize that I have talents and gifts that are unique and life changing and to NOT use those just doesn’t make sense. Why would a hairdresser try to fly planes? Why would a flautist try to teach trombone?

Why SHOULD I wash dishes when even the people hiring can see my talents can be put to better use? (I tried!!!)

Who is anyone to tell me not to teach children anti bullying through drama when that is what I have been trained to do?

Who is anyone to tell me to stop trying to help women transform and save their lives even if it means doing it for myself first and lighting the way?…

Stepping it up!

Laughter is the best medicine